You have to teach yourself how to burn things to the ground and build them back up again, with foundations stronger than they ever were before. That is how you survive, that is how you grow. Like broken bones which mend stronger than they were before they were damaged. Like dried up, shrivelled seeds that can be watered and tended and groomed to become something much more than they were.
When your world crumbles, you cannot spend the rest of your life laying in the dust of all of your past hopes and dreams, hoping that your tears would water them and make them grow. Dust does not work like that, all you will get is mud. You have to plan and sow seeds with your blood and sweat and tears. You have to break your back over and over again so the bones heal stronger over and over again. You have to be the Atlas to your burdens and carry the weight of your pain and sorrow on your shoulders without allowing yourself sink into nothingness.
You have to learn to use the pain. You have to learn how to feel the pain and hurt without being consumed by it. That is not the fire you need to be consumed by. The fire you need is the flagrance of your fighting spirit. The fire you need is the everlasting fire within your heart that burns and dims but never completely dies. The fire you need is the fire of your hopes and dreams. The fire you need is the fire of your self worth and belief in yourself.
And somedays it is hard. Somedays it is the hardest thing you could possibly do: to put down the shovel and say no to the self loathing, to say no to the despair we often feel burrowing deep into a place we feel we cannot reach, to say no to the darkness and yes to the light. But you cannot allow yourself continue to dig a premature grave and go through life as a living zombie. Remember that. Always remember that.
Cry but do not allow yourself drown in your tears. Fight but do not scar yourself in the process. Indulge but do not let your bad habits bury you. Burn but allow yourself be reborn from the ashes. You are a Phoenix. Beautiful and mystical and uniquely remarkable and strong beyond words.
And you will always, always rise from the ashes better than you were before. Have faith in yourself.
Have faith in your rebirth, Phoenix.
thehipsavvy 
I think I needed this ✊
Glad to be of service.
Zayomi! This is everything I try to tell people (myself included) when stuff goes sideways.
The rise from the ashes is the first triumph we can achieve, the only option if we must move forward
Truer words have not been spoken.